​Amelia is super queer

Okay so I identify as genderfluid, and while I know a lot of my close friends are informed about this stuff, I wanted to put together a guide for anyone who might be confused.

Now. A quick crash-course on gender. I'm gonna blow your mind and say that there are more than two genders! "What? Amelia, you've got to be bluffing, there's only testosterone boy and estrogen girl!!"

Nope! There are two biological sexes (more or less, actually, but I'm not going to go into intersex right now) but there are many more genders. After all, sex is what's in your pants. Gender is in your mind. For example, you've got agender, bigender, genderfluid, genderqueer, etc, etc. The list goes on and on.

Gender is a spectrum. A decent comparison is to think of it like a number line. You've got the number 1, and you've got the number 2. But between that, you've got 1.1 and 1.01 and 1.001 and 1.2 and 1.02 and you get the idea, yeah? There are infinite numbers between 1 and 2. Just like how there are infinite genders.

I have to be honest, I tried to find a cute little graphic that would sum it all up nicely, but there aren't any good ones out there. Gender is a confusing and enormous concept. But if you just remember that gender is a spectrum, you'll be on the right track.

Now. On to my identity, genderfluid. To be honest, it's actually quite a simple definition. It means that my gender is fluid. Thus, some days I feel like a girl. Other days, I feel like a boy. And sometimes, I might feel somewhere in between, or like I have no gender at all. Again. Gender is confusing.

I know you might not really understand this. I know, to some of you, it might sound like a made-up thing. That I'm just looking for attention. Because to be a asexual genderfluid young adult? It's got to be someone hamming it up, hoping for people to notice them.

Please. This is real. This is what I've been going through for a while now. So if those are your thoughts and they are set in stone, I bid my goodbye, because I don't need that kind of negativity in my life.

But if you're still here... If you're supportive of me... Then I can't thank you enough. This is a confusing thing, for both you and I, and I'm honestly going to need all the support I can get.

Now, mushy stuff aside. I bet you're wondering what's going to change from here on out. The answer: just a little. The biggest thing is going to be my pronouns. I'd like everyone to refer to me using the gender-neutral "they/them/theirs." The reason for this is because hearing, for example, the pronouns "she/her/hers" on a day that I'm feeling anything but female? That is not a pleasant feeling. Imagine if someone constantly referred to you as the wrong gender. Not fun, right? And since my gender changes often, I didn't want to subject people to switching between "she" and "he," so a simple neutral pronoun will be accepted at all times.

Example sentences: Oh, that Amelia, they never look where they're going. I swear, the next time they trip over their shoes, I'm just going to laugh at them. They never learn!

See, it's pretty simple once you get the hang of it! If you're concerned about my pronouns being "plural," I'd like to direct you to this link right here.

As far as any physical changes, I've recently had top surgery, which is essentially a double mastectomy to remove my breasts and create a more masculine contoured chest. Again, feel free to ask any questions you might have on this procedure!

Keeping in the spirit of my asexual page, I'll go ahead and list a few do's and don't's in case anyone else ever reveals their gender identity to you!

Genderfluid    (Little out of date)