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Asexual   (A bit out of date)

Aha, so I know I came out once as pansexual (Feel free to read that page here, but know it's not accurate anymore) but y'know, people grow and change and learn more about themselves, and this is kind of the result of that!

 

So, let's get down to the defining things, yeah? Just as before, the suffix "-sexual," means "to be sexually attracted to," while the prefix "a-" means "not, or without." Putting it together, asexual is to be sexually attracted to no one. A simple concept, right?

 

Now, I'm betting you might be wondering, "Whoa, Amelia, how did you go from being pansexual and liking all genders to asexual and liking none? That's kind of a big jump!" And I mean, you're kind of right? But let me explain.

 

It's actually common for many asexuals to identify as pansexual or bisexual for a while! We'll notice that we seem to feel the same towards everyone, and so obviously it must mean that we like everyone, right? But the thing is, it turns out that that feeling is actually a lack of attraction. Make sense? I had the same opinion toward everyone, so I assumed that's what the norm was. Turns out, I was wrong!

 

How about some info about asexuality?:

- Asexuality does not equal celibacy. It is not a choice, it's an orientation. People who remain celibate or abstinate can feel sexual attraction, but choose not to act upon it. Asexuals, on the other hand, do not feel sexual attraction at all.

- If you're up for a read, this post, while geared towards writers, has a ton of really good information!

- Or, if you'd rather have pictures and a cute bespecaled cartoon person showing you the ropes, check out this comic.

 

On a separate, but related note, keep in mind that asexuality is not the same as aromanticism, which is a lack of romantic attraction. Some people are aro/ace (aromantic/asexual), but some aren't! There are literally so many romantic orientations out there like literally if you feel it, there is a term for you.

 

Anyways, that's my newest update in regards to how gay I am! Continue on!

Do:
Don't:

  • Feel free to conduct your own research! Maybe you'll learn a few things that I don't know!

  • Treat me the same. Nothing has changed. I'm still the same person I was before.

  • Be supportive! That would be the best gift you could give me!

  • Ask questions! If anything is still unclear, I'd be totally happy to answer any polite questions you have. I'm all about educating people on lesser-known sexualities or identities.

  • Don't act like I'm fragile or naive or childish. I can make as many sex jokes as you can.

  • Don't be any of these people. Except that last one. Please be that one.

  • Don't say things like this.

  • All in all, don't be rude, k?

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